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I need a reality check
Jun. 21st, 2013 06:56 pmOkay, this just happened and I'm not sure how to feel about it, so I come to the LJ hive mind for clarity.
A self-professed "very heterosexual" woman is extremely uncertain about the thought of having sex with a bi man: is the appropriate reaction here "sigh, latent homophobia (biphobia?), that's unfortunate" or "ah, a rare example of a true zero on the Kinsey scale"?
For further clarification, this came up in the course of a conversation about how we were both so happy that the AMA has recommended the FDA no longer bans gay men from giving blood donations, and from a woman who is enthusiastically supportive of gay marriage. Also, further questioning clarified that it's not an issue of "people attracted to both genders won't be satisfied being monogamous with just one person" bullshit. It's specifically a discomfort with the thought of having sex with a man who has had sex with men before. My gut reaction was "wow, look at your latent homophobia showing itself", but then I wondered if maybe I wasn't being too quick to be judgy. I'm bi and can't see a reason why who a partner has previously slept with should be an issue, so it's hard for me to grok.
A self-professed "very heterosexual" woman is extremely uncertain about the thought of having sex with a bi man: is the appropriate reaction here "sigh, latent homophobia (biphobia?), that's unfortunate" or "ah, a rare example of a true zero on the Kinsey scale"?
For further clarification, this came up in the course of a conversation about how we were both so happy that the AMA has recommended the FDA no longer bans gay men from giving blood donations, and from a woman who is enthusiastically supportive of gay marriage. Also, further questioning clarified that it's not an issue of "people attracted to both genders won't be satisfied being monogamous with just one person" bullshit. It's specifically a discomfort with the thought of having sex with a man who has had sex with men before. My gut reaction was "wow, look at your latent homophobia showing itself", but then I wondered if maybe I wasn't being too quick to be judgy. I'm bi and can't see a reason why who a partner has previously slept with should be an issue, so it's hard for me to grok.
