samyazaz: (Samy)
Okay, this just happened and I'm not sure how to feel about it, so I come to the LJ hive mind for clarity.

A self-professed "very heterosexual" woman is extremely uncertain about the thought of having sex with a bi man: is the appropriate reaction here "sigh, latent homophobia (biphobia?), that's unfortunate" or "ah, a rare example of a true zero on the Kinsey scale"?

For further clarification, this came up in the course of a conversation about how we were both so happy that the AMA has recommended the FDA no longer bans gay men from giving blood donations, and from a woman who is enthusiastically supportive of gay marriage. Also, further questioning clarified that it's not an issue of "people attracted to both genders won't be satisfied being monogamous with just one person" bullshit. It's specifically a discomfort with the thought of having sex with a man who has had sex with men before. My gut reaction was "wow, look at your latent homophobia showing itself", but then I wondered if maybe I wasn't being too quick to be judgy. I'm bi and can't see a reason why who a partner has previously slept with should be an issue, so it's hard for me to grok.
samyazaz: (Samy)
Backstory: We are both sick.

Samy: (muttering to self) God.
Mom: What?
Samy: I feel like crap.
Mom: (incredibly dismissively) I know. Me too.
Samy: ...
Mom: And my day isn't even over yet.

I AM SO GOD DAMN SICK OF PEOPLE WHO TREAT ILLNESS AND INJURY LIKE IT'S A FUCKING COMPETITION.
samyazaz: (What going mad feels like)
She's trying to mine me for information about getting a fantasy novel published, for a friend's daughter.

Mom: Okay, but what about your e-publishers? Can you give me a list of them?
Samy: Those aren't going to help her. Most e-publishers want romance.
Mom: Well, hers might have romance in it, I didn't ask.
Samy: Okay, when I say "romance", I'm trying to imply "smut".
Mom: Like sex-sex-sex, or like sex scenes in a romance novel?
Me: There are varying heat levels, but yeah, they usually want sex.
Mom: *said like she thinks I'm an idiot* Well, most fantasy novels have sex.
Me: No, most straight-up fantasy novels do not.
Mom: Name one fantasy book that doesn't have--
Me: Lord of the Rings. Chronicles of Narnia. Harry--
Mom: *does a doubletake* Oh snap.

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